about Tradition Two of the Twelve Traditions

For our group purpose there is but one authority, a loving God as he may express himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants, they do not govern.

This tradition is perfect for this recovering control freak! It lets me off the hook of trying to make everything "just right" for those around me. I am not in charge here, and that's a huge relief.

Higher Power is in charge, which is a double relief. To me, that means I am safe in the rooms despite the many personalities and opinions that abound. Personalities and opinions are simply manifestations of different aspects of HP, ensuring that my learning is complete through exposure to such diversity (and sometimes adversity!).

I trust people who do service because their recovery depends on using the principles. Plus, if someone goes way off the "I'm responsible for everything" beam, it's very likely that someone will gently steer them in a healthier direction. This Tradition gives permission for such guidance to happen.

Thanks to this tradition, I've been able to trust myself to contribute a part of the whole and to let go of the idea that I must supply everything. It's the first time I got to practice being one among many and being safe in that position. Now I can use my experience to guide me in other areas of my life. I'm never the one completely in charge, I am always one piece of the puzzle.

about how to help someone with major trouble

Hello from India.

Nice to know you.

Can you guide how a person can regain his professional career & personal life when one of the most power person Chair man of Asia's largest news agency UNI to hide his error accuse his junior of spying then repeatedly try to kill him ?

Wish you & everyone in your family optimum & opulent joy & prosperity always.

Thanks

Hello,

Thanks for your question. It sounds like you've had a terrible experience. While not having the same experience, I've survived my own difficulty - so that's my perspective. I was fired quite brutally and unnecessarily from a job, and people then badmouthed me. I found that I needed to address some of the accusations head on through a lawyer, and ignore the rest. A head-on confrontation would not have done me any good.

To move on, I've found it helpful to talk about my experience with trusted friends and family, to continue to get the emotional toxin out of my soul. Removing the toxin bit by bit, I heal and get strength to take steps toward rebuilding my life.

The small steps involved finding my next focus. I realized I no longer wanted to do the kind of work I'd done for 25 years. My purpose - to empower people to find and embrace their own life's purpose - was constant. I explored a few things and after trying it out, found that coaching was my next step. It's a great platform for both helping people and gathering information for a book or two aimed at helping people rebuild after work-related trauma.

And that's what I help people do - they can express their feelings to me and gradually focus more and more on what they do next. Moving on often involves forgiveness - an understanding that these people do the best they can given who they are and what they know. At very least, it involves taking my attention from them and putting my focus on my life purpose and the way I can live it.

Yes, these people harmed me. Yes, there was no reason to do so. At the same time, I did not cause them to do it. And I will not allow them to stop me from living my life.

I've come to realize that I was no longer meant to have the job I had, and that the universe did for me what I could not do for myself. So instead of resenting the past, I mourn it and replace it with the new.

Hope this helps a little.

Best wishes,

Julie